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Aslam o Alakam, I (32 years) and my whole family embraced Islam on 13 November 2010 including mom, dad, 3 brothers, 1 sister and repented from Qadianism/Ahmadiyyat but my wife (marriage held 8 Nov 2009 according qadiani law) did not embraced Islam and still following Qadianism/Ahmadiyyat and living with her parents home in other city and my daughter (3months) is still with her. I through phone and letters try to convince her and offered her to embrace Islam but she refused. Please answer the following questions.
1. What is the status of my marriage? Do I need to have any judicial judgment?
2. What are my responsibilities towards my wife and daughter?
3. Is she has a right of maintenance? Dower? Dowry article? Inheritance?
4. Who have the right of custody/hazanat of daughter?


Praises are to Allah, and peace be upon prophet Muhammed.
Qadianism is a great deviation that takes a person out of the fold
of Islam, and is a result of people following their “hawa” (whims),
instead of following the ulema. Anyone that does not give up this
grave deviated belief is a kafir (disbeliever), that will enter the hell
fire along with the other disbelievers. This is because they failed
to listen the ulema, who convey the message of Allah, and were averse to them.

If they repent, and believe in the correct teachings brought to us
by our noble predecessor ulema, then they will be on the right faith.
Otherwise they have rejected the guidance that Allah has brought to
mankind, and following new innovated false beliefs, just like what
was innovated in other religions.

The revelation of Allah flows from Angel Gabriel, to prophet
Muhammed , may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him, to the sahabah, then to the people that follow them afterwards, in that chain.

Nevertheless, by being kind, and using wise words, hopefully you
can convince the people that are on this deviated belief to rid
themselves of this false innovated aqeedah (beliefs), follow the
aqeedah (beliefs) of our rightly guided predecessors, listen and be
devoted to our noble ulema.

For your questions,

1. Qadianis are given the same rulings as murtads (apostates). After you accepted the right belief, your wife remains for the duration of the iddat (normally 3 menstrual cycles). After that, if she does not accept the right belief, she is divorced.

2. After the iddat period, you are no longer responsible to support
your wife, except if you owed something to her. You may still get
back together after that if she repents. If she demands something for breastfeeding your daughter, you must provide her a reasonable compensation.

For your daughter, you have to provide her support, and this amount becomes a debt on you.

3. The maintenance is during the iddat period. After that, if you don’t
expect to be together, you no longer have to provide her support. For
your daughter, you have to continue providing for her, and teach her the correct beliefs; and rid her of the false innovated ideas that may have been said to your daughter.

The dower is the wife’s after sexual enjoyment with her, regardless
of if it is a monetary amount or an article. If she does not
repent, she does not inherit from you, nor do you inherit from her.
Disbelievers do not inherit from believers, and believers do not
inherit from disbelievers. If she is no longer your wife you
could leave her a bequest.

4. In this situation, where she does not repent, the child would go
the custody of the believing parent, according to the Islamic law.
If the legal system of the land prevents that custody, it is excused
because of compulsion.

This is the rulings according to the Islamic law, and Allah knows.

Shaikh Sajid


My question was is stoning adulterer still permissible in this day and age or was is something used for just a period? What did the prophet Muhammad say about it was stoning one of the law changed?


All praise be to Allah, the all-Wise Lawgiver.

Before answering your question, it is necessary to put our conversation in perspective. So let us look at some of the evil effects that adultery has on society.

– Over 42 million babies are killed every year through abortion worldwide.
– This equates to approximately 115,000 babies killed by abortion every day, or almost two babies killed every second.

Those who are not killed may end up without parents in orphanages, or abondoned or otherwise live without family.

If we look at societies where adultery is prevelant, we also find that divorce rate is beyond 60% . In many of these societies, people no longer even see the need to marry.

In these societies, countless young girls are sold into prostitution or otherwise exploited through the sex industry.

Now, to answer your question, the punishment for adultery in Islam is the same as in the Bible. However, in Islam the purpose is not to punish but to deter, and for this reason the punishment exists but it is rarely applied. This is because, unless there is voluntary admission, there must be 4 just male eyewitnesses who see penetration in order for the punishment to be applied. This has never occured in Islamic history.

But the punishment remains there like a whip hanging above the would-be adulterer’s head, so that he or she is deterred from this evil. All the parts of the body that would enjoy this evil relationship would also fear the effects of the punishment.

Also, such punishment cannot be applied in the West or outside the just framework of an Islamic state.

At the same time, Islam teaches that one must hide their sin, so if a woman or man did commit this, they should not make it public, but repent for it, and God will forgive them, and He is Merciful.

The Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, was asked about two jews who committed adultery. He asked that the Torah be brought, and they took it out but covered up some of the verses. He told them to move their hands, and they were hiding the verses of stoning for adultery.

Allah knows best.


My husband feels it is a higher/advanced level of adab to wear a headcovering (eg, scarf) at home. He feels doing so is more modest and brings greater blessings into the home through one’s modesty. He thinks I should wear headcovering even in seclusion with no visitors or non-mahrams. I have no objections to doing this if evidence or proof of this is presented as I wish to obey my husband. From my studies I have found no evidence of women being required or even recommended to keep on hijab at home. My husband says I will not find evidence of this because it is adab and therefore more subtle – not from Quran and Sunnah. My husband is from Pakistan and I am concerned that this is actually a cultural practice and that there is no recommendation/benefit from my doing so. I am happy to do it to please him but I am equally very keen to follow true Islam without cultural norms being mistaken for such. Could you please confirm if covering at home is more inline with the principle of haya.


All praise is due to Allah.

What is required of all Muslims is to adhere to the pristine guidance of the Shari’ah of Islam, in accordance to what was revealed to us in the Qur’an, and the Sunnah, as explained by the Ulema.

Allah Most High has ordained the hijab as a means of protecting society from falling into Zina and licientious behavior. Allah Most High says:

وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُولِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاءِ

“(And tell the believing women) that they should draw their khimaars (hijab) over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex;”

Our sentimental feelings have no bearing on the Shari’ah of Allah, rather we must brush them aside. Likewise, when cultural practices contradict the religious rulings of Islam, we must leave them aside. Do we think that we are better then the Mothers of the Believers, and the early generations of Muslims, none of whom made the claim that always wearing hijab at home was a praisworthy action?

It is feared that such feelings are a type of extremism, whereby one obligates upon oneself or others what the Shari’ah has not obligated, and rather has made easy.

At the same time, we recommend that you do not let this type of disagreement create a rift in your family life. If you can manage to avoid argumentation with your husband on this subject, it is better for you. You can try to politely change the subject. If you try to let others advise him in a wise and gentle way, this would be better.

At the same time, try to make effort to educate your family and children about the Shari’ah of Islam, and bring beneficial knowledge into your home. Try to sit together and have ta’leem and learn from the Ulema and scholars of Islam, and increase your Fiqh in the religion, and impart it on your family. Make sure that your children are raised upon the Tawheed of Allah and the Sunnah of the Messenger, may peace and blessings be upon him.

I ask that Allah Most High rectify your affairs, and with Him is all success. And Allah knows best.


My mom and I cannot seem to have a normal conversation. She is
always shocked at my opinions, and want me to do things her way.
What do I do?


It is incumbant on both of you to go by what the ulema say on things
that have any basis in Islam, and refer them to Allah and His messenger,
may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him.

One always has to follow the laws of Islam, as explained to us
by our noble ulema. One should be kind and say good words to one’s
parents. Even in a case where a parent may say something wrong, one
should still be good to their parents, though Allah’s ordainments
come first.

As far as opinions are concerned, as people study the Islamic
law and fiqh, the personal opinions are changed and replaced by the
ilm, the explanations and understanding by our noble ulema, that relay
the message from Allah and prophet Muhammed, May Allah’s peace and
blessings be upon him. One has to completely disregard their personal
views and opinions, and change them to the correct understanding as
taught to us by our noble ulema. One also should humble oneself and
accept and listen to the ilm wholeheartedly and not be arrogant.

The solution for family problems is to bring the whole family
to the Islamic environments like the halqas and classes of ilm,
the masajid. Also bring the Islamic environment in the home, by
reading and listening and learning from our noble ulema. Verily the
beneficial knowledge will bring happiness and joy into ones life
and family, and one will stay on the correct faith following the
tradition of prophet Muhammed, may Allah’s peace and blessings
be upon him, and enter Jannah, and be saved from the hell fire.

May Allah forgive us, and change our evil deeds to good.

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